He was sitting at the table when I arrived for our lunch.. He was just as cute in person. Lucky me! (Online dating can be tough.) He was seriously as tall as he said he was (bonus). Doesn't really matter how petite I am, tall is always sexy. But not too tall--then we just look ridiculous together. (People have actually turned around and laughed out loud when I am with a man over 6'2"--especially if I am not wearing heels --which is rare).
So we chat. You know the basics. Where ya from, family, job, blah blah blah.
But the really cool part was the way he maintained eye contact. It was great. He seemed really interested in what I had to say. We sat in one of those big u-shaped booths, pretty close together, and he touched my leg lightly a couple of times to make a point. Love that! But he still didn't give anything away.
He didn't flirt with me in an obvious manner. He didn't throw any compliments my way, i.e. he did not feed my ego or reassure me in any direct way. And so I enjoyed the meal and the conversation. I would even say it was a bit fun--but no fireworks. And, frankly I was disappointed because the more he shared, the more I realized that he was very intelligent and confident and of course I was attracted to all of that.
So we said a polite goodbye outside and he hugged me. And I thought, "Well, maybe friends."
But after I left, I texted him. "That was great. Thanks!" And he immediately texted me back--"I was trying to text you the same thing, but I am driving." And then he followed that up with, "You are really cute, by the way. I almost tried to kiss you twice."
Big smile from me!
So why hadn't he given me any signs. He certainly wasn't the shy type. Interesting what men/boys can say in a text but not to our faces. It would save so much time and energy and analysis (on my part) if they would say what they were thinking (within reason of course). But alas, fear of rejection is powerful.
So we continue texting:
Me: "I don't want to be cute. I wanna be sexy!"
Him: "That was a given. Cute makes me want to sit next to you. Sexy is why I want to kiss you so badly."
Me: "That is awesome. Thanks!"
And then I started to have a really big crush. And we planned our next date......
